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One thing that couples just can’t agree on, no matter what
location you are considering, is how many people should
be there.
You feel like invitng everyone to your wedding that you
have ever known or might even potentially know better
in the future, such as your hairdresser or various business
associates whom you have never actually met face-to-face.
Your fiancee would be content with only immediate family,
or, quite honestly, just he and you and the justice of the
peace. Perfectly happy to be getting married, he simply
doesn’t like standing up in front of large crowds. It stresses
him out every time you want to add a new person to the
list; it annoyed you when he tried to cut it.
So who should get their way? Do we go small, big or
compromise?
He wants a small wedding because rarely does one
wedding stand out as being better than the next. He feels
that weddings have become so routine and large and
seemingly stressful for the couple getting hitched, and
wants to avoid this. He wants something different and
small with just the people you love; the ones who really are
enjoying being witness.
It is definitely easier to achieve a greater sense of
togetherness with a smaller wedding.
Two dozen people or so standing around you in a circle
certainly creates a real feeling of intimacy. And a party with
less than 50 people probably won’t have a 10-piece band, so
people can truly talk instead of yelling at each other across
the table all night long.
That said, a big wedding also can feel quite intimate if you
work with your fiancé and officiant to plan a truly personal
ceremony, and there is something truly powerful about
having so many people from across your life there during
this moment that will only happen once.
Rather than splitting the difference, most couples end
up just going one way or the other when deciding on the
size of a wedding. It seems like the person who feels the
strongest about size tends to win out, while other types of
concessions are made to please the conceding half.
For example, not having a typical wedding party but instead
only your siblings with no best men or maid of honor – just
the people you love the most.
When making numbers decisions, it is also important to
consider the space, budget, and the guest-list desires of
parents, if they are helping pay for the wedding.
When you finally wrap your brain around your budget and
realize that the hairdresser isn’t that important; and your
parents, who may be contributing financially to our soiree,
are able to invite whomever they like.
Just glad that, in the end, he’ll be the one and only person
standing next to you.
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The
Big
&
Small
of it All
ONE OF YOU WANTS A BLOWOUT, THE OTHER WANTS TO SHUT
EVERYONE OUT. IT MAY SOUND HARD TO BELIEVE, BUT IT IS
POSSIBLE TO PLEASE YOU BOTH ON YOUR SPECIAL DAY
By Anna T. Hirsh